As we're working to heal ourselves from all the challenges we've been struggling with, one of the best things we can do for ourselves is start to give more thought to our life's mission, our purpose, what we feel called to accomplish in this lifetime. Many of us have been too consumed by our mental and emotional health issues to give this topic much thought. We've felt so depressed and anxious, so empty and alone that even getting through the day is hard enough, let alone figuring out who we are and what we're meant to do with our lives. For many of us, our addictive patterns have completely taken over our lives, and we feel so consumed by our dependence on our drugs of choice that taking steps forward in our lives feels impossible. Our challenges feel insurmountable. When we're in this place, how are we ever supposed to figure out our identity, our sense of self, and our life's purpose? How do we determine what our life's mission is when we feel totally lost and confused?
Lifelong Healing Journey
This process of self-reflection and introspection is part of our lifelong healing journey. We can't expect to find the answers overnight, and we can't push ourselves too hard to come to all of the necessary conclusions or to have everything figured out. In fact, the more we do push ourselves, the more frustrated and defeated we feel. We feel disappointed in ourselves for not knowing what we're meant to do with our lives. We feel insecure seeing other people who look like they have everything together. We envy their success and fulfillment. We become increasingly impatient with ourselves. We feel fed up with how stagnant we've become in our daily lives. Let's use these all feelings not to beat ourselves up, to judge ourselves, or to condemn ourselves, but to help fuel our transformation. Let's use our frustration and sadness as motivation to look within and start connecting with ourselves more.
Having Patience with the Process
We can get extremely overwhelmed when we think we have to do everything right now, this very minute. We feel even more down on ourselves when we judge ourselves for not being where we'd like to be in life. Let's try and drop the self-judgment and condemnation and instead give ourselves as much compassion as possible. Let's be patient with ourselves. Let's remind ourselves that we're dealing with some huge life challenges. Addictions and mental health issues are some of the toughest things any of us will ever have to deal with in life. Healing takes time. Congratulate yourself for making it this far! Celebrate the fact that you still have your whole life ahead of you, to be happy, to make changes, and to find fulfillment.
All of the huge, broad, life-changing goals that come with our life's purpose are rooted in the deeper parts of who we are, our hearts, souls and spirits. We can start to discover these goals when we explore these inner parts of ourselves. Instead of trying to tackle the whole “what's my life mission?” question all at once, and instead of pressuring ourselves to have all the answers right this minute, let's take small, incremental steps to do this important self-exploration work. We can ask ourselves some leading questions that can help open us up to thinking more about who we are and what we want out of life. Again, we don't have to have all the answers right away. Our goal here is to start the process of thinking and exploring more, and it's not necessarily realistic that we would have it all figured out right away. In fact, it's a part of our life's journey to keep asking ourselves these questions, to keep checking in with ourselves, to keep doing the work to figure out who we are.
Asking Ourselves Open Questions
Who am I? How would I describe myself? How would my loved ones describe me? What are my talents and strengths? What do I excel at? What am I passionate about? What am I interested in? What makes me feel driven and motivated? What makes me feel excited to get out of bed and start the day? What do I love to do? What things make me love life? What did I love to do when I was younger? What brought me happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction in my life before my addiction, depression and anxiety took over? What do I see myself doing as a career? How can I help people? How can I be of service? What unique gifts do I have to offer the world?
Connecting with Self for Health and Happiness
Figuring out our life's mission is part of our healing work. It is part of the work we have to do in order to get ourselves out of the trap of our recurring destructive cycles. When we start working to discover our life's purpose, we have much more internal motivation to stay on track with our sobriety, to stay focused on our well-being, and to prioritize our wellness. When we feel lost and devoid of purpose, we're much more prone to falling into a depression, having severe anxiety, and using our drugs of choice to cheer us up. Every little bit of work we do to connect with ourselves and figure out our life's mission contributes to our recovery. Every time
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