Self-Deception and The 12 Steps
1. We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become
• I admit that, as long as I am a self-deceived person, I am powerless over the
results of my self-deception.
2. We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
• A Power greater than me must be, and can only be, found outside my self-
deceived self. Leaving self-deception makes sanity accessible.
3. We made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood
• Letting go of my own will is (among other things) responding to the real needs of
others, the humanity of others. (Among other ways) I turn myself over to God (as
I understand Him) by seeing others the way I imagine my God sees them.
4. We made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
• My moral inventory includes examining my self-justifying images, and personal
patterns of self-justification with regard to my behavior and how I see others.
5. We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our
• I seek to examine the extent to which the nature of my wrongs are connected to
the self-justifying images I carry. I admit to God and another person that I carry
these. I seek out persons who can help me examine myself in honest ways.
6. We were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
• My character defects are at play when I am in self-deception. I am entirely ready
to have God remove me out of my self-deception!
7. We humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
• I humbly ask Him to remove the foundation of my weaknesses and
shortcomings...the results of my self-deception.
8. We made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them
• I make a list of the people I have harmed. With regard to each person, I also
make a list of what I feel I should do for them now.
9. We made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure
them or others.
• I go about doing those things I feel I should do, directly making amends, or
otherwise for, or in behalf of those on my list.
10. We continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
• I continue to examine my self-justifying images and patterns, and when I
slip back into "the box" I seek to promptly get back out by responding to the
"personhood" of those in my life.
11. We sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we
understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that
• By going to my "out-of-the-box place," through prayer and meditation, or
through any other effective method for me, I seek to continually improve
my conscious contact with God by improving my relationships with the
manifestations of God...namely...other beings. I pray for the knowledge of what I
can do next to be a blessing in the lives of other beings again...then again.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to
addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
• Since I know what it feels like to be less self-deceived, my hope is to help others
become less self-deceived in their own lives. I help others cease their addiction to
self-justification, (and the other addictions that often accompany self-deception)
by ceasing my own self-deception...more and more every day.